When app dating I look for a face that I could enjoy staring into for long hours and I always read the profile. I look for things that make me giggle or something that feels special. If they have a topless bathroom pic I linger for a bit then swipe left. That is not the vibe i'm looking for. But I silently thank them for the ab show. NEXT!
G was handsome and older, he has weird facial hair but I do hair for a living so figured this could be worked out later if we hit it off. My friend calls this type of facial hair a womb broom. A new phrase for me but one that says it all. Dinner went fairly well, open conversation, laughter and honest questions. A good start! Then we get to the x wife. G is very unhappy his x wife did not work during their marriage and now he is very angry at said wife for taking alimony and child support. UH-OH. We moved on to a bar down the street. Now maybe I should of left after his tirade but sometimes a girl just wants to be out! We order our drinks and G turns to me and says "you going to get this round" and I respond "I will totally buy the drinks but there will be no 2nd date or you can buy them with the possibility of a second date". He thought about this after looking at me with wide eyes while saying "REALLY". Yes, really.
After he bought the drinks he announced that I was a little snobby. To which I replied that he just spent 20 minutes complaining about his x wife not holding up her end of things and maybe he has money issues with women. I also asked him if he has been dating 30 yr olds. Which came the replies "you're probably right" and "yes I have".
Ladies, why are you paying for these dates? I believe in equality in the workplace, respect and consideration of women in all aspects of life but men and women are just plain different. Let men show you they are into you. Let them open doors and be chivalrous and let them pay! I probably spent $200 on my nails and lashes to get ready for this date. I did my part, let them do theirs. A real man will want to care for you, show you a good time and respect your personal space. I get a lady boner when treated like a queen and that doesn't mean I don't want equality. That means I want to be taken care of and have great sex with someone who can own their masculinity. Be brave in your femininity. It's ok to do so!
After the snob comment it was pretty down hill from there. G tried with all his might to come back to my place. Saying he was getting drunk and needed to sober up on my couch. I told him to drink water.
I left him and never contacted him after. I woke a day later to a midnight rant about how I am an awful and snobby person. I blocked him happily knowing that I spoke my truth and have great self esteem. And I made a silent wish that he would treat his 2 young daughters with the respect and love that they deserve.